Emotions, relationships and coping with RA

For every person given a diagnosis of RA, there is a wider circle of people who will also be affected by that diagnosis. The diagnosis can affect the nature of that relationship, but understanding and acknowledging all these changes and working through them can help to strengthen relationships. 


For every person given a diagnosis of RA, there is a wider circle of people who will also be affected by that diagnosis. This can include the patient’s partner, children, parents, colleagues and friends. The diagnosis can affect the nature of that relationship. A partner may sometimes have to take on the role of carer and romance and intimacy may be impacted. A colleague may do their job more slowly and may rely on others to help them to complete a task, a child may have to help out more at home and playtime may sometimes be limited, and a friend may cancel plans at short notice, due to a flare or fatigue.  

The person with RA may go through emotional as well as physical changes due to their condition. Their energy levels may be lower, their ability to think and remember might be compromised by their medication and symptoms, and they may experience depression, as they go through a sort of grieving process in trying to come to terms with their diagnosis. 

Understanding and acknowledging all these changes and working through them can help to strengthen relationships. Talking openly about thoughts and concerns can help, and it can also help if both the person with RA and those connected to them educate themselves about the condition, through good information resources, such as those provided by NRAS and services such as the NRAS Helpline, which is available to anyone affected by RA.  

Emotions, relationships & sexuality

This booklet tackles emotions, relationships and sexuality, and how these very personal and intimate issues are affected by being diagnosed with and living with rheumatoid arthritis.


The Wren Project

The Wren Project provides an ongoing space to talk about the social and emotional impact of a diagnosis of autoimmune disease, with volunteers trained in active listening.

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